As we get closer to the end of the year we have been looking at goals and where you want to go with your training. But there is one MASSIVE element that we have not yet spoken about and to be honest, I truly believe that it is the most important element in all of this.
The idea that you are enough.
There is a great story where Kurt Vonnegut (author of Slaughterhouse Five) & Joseph Heller (author of Catch-22) are at a fancy party in New York City. Standing in this second home of some boring billionaire, Vonnegut starts to needle his friend. "Joe, how does it feel that our host only yesterday made more money than your novel has earned in its entire history?"
"I've got something he can never have," Heller replied. "The knowledge that I've got enough."
When we stop and think about this for a second, you'll probably say - this is the worst goal-setting pump up ever... But, most people never learn that their accomplishments will ultimately fail to provide the relief and happiness we tell ourselves they will. Our incessant need for progress or to fix ourselves (as if something is wrong) can be the enemy of enjoying the process. There is no fulfilment for a person who cannot appreciate things as they are, particularly when we are already doing SO much.
You are simply enough exactly as you are, there is nothing broken that needs to be fixed. As we go after driving to the end of the training year or setting goals for next year, it's important to remember that you will never feel ok by way of external accomplishments. Being enough comes from internal validation and acceptance. It is from this place that we make our best decisions. It is from this place we can be more present to the experiences that come our way. It is from this place everything can grow!