I am going to dive straight into it today as we look at emotions. Whenever I talk about emotions, I like to start with the idea that emotions have been invented by human beings in order to manipulate, dominate and control everything in their experience. Now even if that is not totally true, try to hold it that way for a little while and see what comes up. Babies cry, so mum responds; if I have a particular behaviour that elicits a response that I like, then I continue that behaviour. From the very beginning, we are fashioning a character of ourselves which is built out of emotional responses.
When you get that your whole life was designed around avoiding uncomfortable emotions, that you have chosen to be the most uncomfortable for you, you can start to see that you have shaped your entire life out of the avoidance of certain emotions, that you have voted on being the most severe eg: failure, undeserving, unlovable, not good enough... When you realise the cost of not being able to have new themes attached to them and if you are unwilling to include emotions and develop mastery of response, you’re going to lose.
When you get that they’re only feelings and when you get that you made up what they mean and that you have made yourself the victim of your own thinking around your emotions. You may discover that you can also change what they mean. Unlike Pavlov’s dog, we are not stuck to stimulus/response, rather we have the capability of choice before our response. Mastery lives in the space of including emotional responses as ok in your experience. If you’re willing to include, day in and day out, the emotional responses that come into your experience as being ok, no matter what they are.
Understanding that you are not your thoughts and emotions, which are just interpretations of your feelings, they will not any more have the same grip on you. This now allows you to take responsibility for being the cause of everything you know and have in your life. Responsibility is not blame, blame does not work. Responsibility is about seeing how you made it possible for whatever it is in your life being there and from that you can create anything you want to see in your life.
So let's talk about commitment. You must have alignment with what you speak in your mind and what eventually shows up. The amazing thing about this word commitment is, if you were truly able to ascertain the emotional response of people when they hear this word, it’s anxiety-inducing. Yet, this thought is perpetuating the proving part of our minds to show commitment as tough. Once the thinker thinks that commitment is tough, the proving part of your mind has nothing else to do but prove that commitment is tough. The secret of achievers is not that they don’t feel all the feelings. They feel them to the nth degree, it is just that they interpret them differently.
What is commitment? Commitment is simply, doing the thing you said you were going to do, long after the mood you said it in has left you. Here's what commitment is for most people; ‘I'll do what it takes, whatever it takes, for as long as it takes, until…’ Then the list of reasons sneak in, they hit a wall of resistance and it’s the end of the game.
Rather, the dynamic aspect of commitment is taking responsibility to keep your word. This is why we hold your Sunday text to be so important. By keeping your commitment to doing what you said you were going to do, you are creating the experience of success in keeping your word, all by turning up to training. It is these little victories that then trickle into the rest of your daily life as there is nothing more powerful on this planet than speaking your word and doing what you speak. These are the people we want in our lives, to do business with or build relationships with.
So, as you respond to your Sunday text this week, keep that statement in mind. There is nothing more powerful on this planet than speaking your word and doing what you speak!